If you’ve been dating for any length of time it’s a fair bet that you’ve had one or two texts along the way. While sometimes simple, you’re almost certainly going to have received a few that have had you scratching your head and needing to get your friends to help you decode them.
Texts can leave you feeling amused, frustrated or just plain confused at the best of times, let alone when emotions are all tangled up with them too. I guess it’s only natural given just how differently men and women are wired up when it comes to communicating. Here’s a few handy hints to help untangle those messages out of the blue.
Hey – well this is just lazy. At best it shows they’re thinking about you, but they’re not really turning that thinking into anything positive. You can text back, but don’t put more effort in than you feel like as they don’t seem bothered either.
Thinking of you – this is a pretty clear sign he’s into you, though it can be a bit heavy if it’s only been a first date when you get this.
What are you up to? – the timing of this message can tell you a lot. If it’s at the weekend and you’ve not had a meal then you’re probably just being called on the off-chance because he’s desperate. If it’s during a civilised hour during the week then they’re probably being genuine. Just beware of the texter who is only in touch at odd times and never at the weekend – he’s probably seeing someone else.
Had a great time last night – always a good one to get, and usually comes after a successful date. Respond and let them know how much fun you had.
How Are You? – well when a guy likes you, his brain can tend to shut down, so this is probably just down to him not knowing what to say. Text back if you like him and give him something to respond to that will make the conversation more interesting.
Can I come over? – again, check the timing of the message. Late at night, with no suggestion of going somewhere means it’s a booty call. Don’t bother responding unless you’re up for one too and aren’t worried about attachments.