Guys have it easy when it comes to sex – they have simple need and obvious tastes by and large. A little narrow vision comes into play when they’re in the mood, so perhaps it’s not surprising that they get confused when they inadvertently ruin the mood of the moment.
To be fair, we all have our moments, and these tips are just as valid for women as they are for men. Let’s be honest though – as you read through this quick list, you’ll probably think of an example of a guy doing one of these things first.
- Don’t pressure your partner into sex – nothing will turn him or her off more than being constantly badgered about it. We all get stubborn when someone tries to push us into doing something, no matter how mundane it is. How many of us groan when asked to take out the trash or give yet another back rub. Before long you’re running a mile to avoid it. Well, the same holds true for sex, so lighten up.
- Make sure you’re not stinking the place out – sounds obvious, doesn’t it? The problem is that we rapidly get used to our own smell and scent and don’t notice so easily when we’re getting a bit rank – especially in the heat. Don’t believe me? Put on some scent or cologne and enjoy that lovely smell – and then try and tell what it is after quarter of an hour. Taking a bit of time to freshen up before you get up close and personal will work wonders.
- Watch your attitude – we all have bad moods, and sometimes it might seem like diving into the sack is going to cure everything, but treating someone like they’re there just for your convenience just isn’t going to cut it. It particularly won’t work if they’ve been walking on eggshells around you all day to avoid that lousy mood.
- Never assume your partner has the same turn-ons as you – we’ve already mentioned that most men are pretty easy to jump-start, but if a guy whips himself out into the open just like that he’d better be prepared for some pretty harsh laughter coming his way. Show some respect and get to know your partner. Charm and looks will get you only so far; after that try listening, communicating and paying some attention – you’ll be amazed how easy it is.
- Don’t expect your partner to be a porn star – this really shouldn’t be too much of a surprise, but life and people are a lot more complicated than anything you might see on a screen somewhere. More to the point, if you’re expecting your partner to be and behave like something you’ve seen on a screen you’re being selfish. You’re treating them like something warm only there to get you off – and that’s no way to treat someone you love, is it?
A little thought, restraint and common sense are going to go a long way here. So next time you’re in the mood and your partner is looking and sounding less than enthusiastic just take a moment to think and see if you’re making things worse without realising it.