I suppose it’s only fair that we give a bit of a focus on flirting for the guys given how the last article was for the girls. I’ve lost track of the number of guys who’ve complained they just don’t get it when people flirt, let alone how to do it themselves without coming off as a complete creeper.
It would certainly be a lot easier if we could just up and say to each other “Hey, I fancy you, do you fancy me?” and cut out all the dancing around, but the truth is that not only is that a pretty scary way to throw yourself in the deep end, but in most places it’s also seen as pretty crude.
Our ability to misunderstand flirty signals can make things uncomfortable to say the least, especially when people can have very different motives for flirting. Flirting can be romantic, sexual, friendly or casual, and that’s part of the joy of flirting that it can be so flexible.
So – what are our top tips for guys when it comes to flirting?
- Act interested – there’s nothing less helpful than a guy acting all coy, so you absolutely do need to show some interest. You just need to keep it light and fun rather than coming in like a sledgehammer.
- Keep some distance – this might sound like a contradiction to the first bit of advice, but really we mean that you shouldn’t fall over yourself to fawn over someone or proclaim that you can’t live without them. It’s playing games a little, but only to encourage us to keep flirting with you.
- A little light touching – keep it appropriate boys, as a groping will usually get you a swift slap and your marching orders. On the other hand if the earlier flirting seems to be going well then making an excuse to hold our hand can be a great way of confirming it. If we pull away of course, then you’ll probably want to put the brakes on a bit.
- Make us laugh – being charming and funny is right up there with being handsome and athletic, and you underestimate the power of laughter at your peril. Lightly making fun of us, or even better of yourself, is a great way to get our attention.
- Be curious – do you want to know the best flirting technique for men of all time? It’s simple, just ask questions and then listen to the answers you get – but don’t make it about relationship troubles, that’ll just give you a fast-track ticket to the friendzone.
So there you have it – flirting for guys in a simple package. Keep it light, keep it fun, keep us laughing and talking and you’re on your way.
Now go for it.